First let me say that I can`t compare to what the two James` went through with their daughters & I certainly hope that all is well! My mother died after a horrible bout with cancer, a three year battle. At the same time my middle daughter, became quite a challenge, to put it mildly. Add to this the fact that I had made a poor real estate investment, that almost put us in the poor house & I must admit that I let stress overwhelm me. I made some bad choices. Alcohol & certain illegal substance, were what I used as a crutch, for a few years. When I finally looked in the mirror & decided that I despised what I saw, it was time to do something about it. I should mention, that I barely trained for about 4 years. I went to a type of rehab, called harm reduction & I also tried A/A. Well I decided that 12 steps wasn`t really what I needed, after about a 2 year trial. I should also mention that just prior to rehab I started training seriously & even had a student while I was in there. He asked to try, so I worked with him, almost evruday for about three weeks for about 11/2 hours & he was close to 8th kyu level when we parted company. Anyway, just prior to all this I had started teaching again with my club, my senior student had taken over in my absence. To make this story shorter, as I have already poured my heart out in another post, I`ll say this: 12 steps weren`t for me. Add the dojo kun & the niju kun together & there are 25 steps. Karate has provided me with the direction that I now travel. Hitotsu Jinkaku Kansai Ni Tsutomoro Koto. One thing, Seek perfection of character. This might sound a bit corny but so far it`s working for me. Karate in so many forms, has been so healthy for my well being. Physically, mentally, socially & spiritually. For me it`s the best thing going. Also the support system is second to none.
As I have also said before; I started for self defense, I stay for self preservation.
I thank every martial artist who gives it a good effort, for being a part of my wellbeing